STOP THE OVERWHELMING GOAL-SETTING ADVICE

Pick your own morning habits. PEXELS/Contributed

Happy New Year! I always wondered when we are supposed to stop saying Happy New Year? When we have seen and/or greeted everyone we know? Feb. 1? 

Every year kicks off with the primary content theme – goal-setting, intention-setting, picking a magical life-changing word, etc. And poof! It all happens. Miraculous change! We all see this theme in everything from posts to blogs to podcasts and more. The theme transcends for a while, sometimes into February. It takes a break and then comes back in December. Reminding us another year has passed. I am not knocking the theme, as I obviously play in the sandbox too.

However, I do like to think about goal setting from an outside perspective and take a pause. Do people stick with their goals? If so, how long? What were the goals?  Or was it only one goal?

Or, do they get “advice overwhelmed”?  Do these questions and thoughts run through your mind too?

I saw an article online recently about morning habits. What do you do when you get up in the morning? The article was a successful business person sharing their morning habits. Their morning habits are: waking up at 6 a.m., work out, shower, eat breakfast, read for an hour and then be at work by 9 a.m. 

But what if those habits don’t work for you or feel good?

I have read countless articles in which the author shuns checking social media first thing when you get up. The theory is, checking social media right away may ruin your day or put you in a bad mood. I happen to check my social media right away to get it over. Well, I go to the bathroom first. To me it’s a checklist activity, like checking our bank account. I happen to think I am still in a good mood regardless of social media. Bank account? Well … that varies.

If it doesn’t bother me, what’s the big deal?

The older I get, the more I realize I need to do what feels good to me. I need to pay attention to what my intuition says, and within the laws of society, roll with that. If it sounds a little grey to you, you are not alone. It took me years to understand the concept. I started to realize in my 30s that my gut (AKA intuition) was usually right about things. The things were anything from people, work situations or my husband using all the ketchup and not telling me. Truth.

Here we are, years later, and I am finally listening and acting upon my intuition. I write about the concept of doing what feels good to you in my upcoming book, “Confidence Mastery For Couples – Roadmap to a More Intimate Relationship.” When you can start to think and then act along those lines, not only do you feel better, but you also find yourself making the right choices for you and your path. As crazy as this may sound, things tend to fall in line better for you. They work out. And often for the best possible scenario.

Of course, for the record, let’s be adults and practice some common sense. I would go down this rabbit hole, but the topic of common sense is much more than my word count allows. 

I ask you to keep this in mind as you go about the new year — follow your path, whatever that may be. It’s nice to listen to all the advice out there on what time is best to work out or drink lemon water first before you have your coffee. But if you want your coffee first, drink it. Everyone’s path is different. We can all be open to listening to everyone, but the differences make us unique and special. And we are all special.

Melinda Van Fleet
Melinda Van Fleet is an Intuitive Energy Business & Leadership Mentor and the owner of Good Karma Sportfishing with her husband, Ryan Van Fleet. She is a speaker, bestselling author of "Confidence Mastery for Couples" and "Life & Love Lessons," and the host of the weekly podcast "The Success Codes Podcast." You can connect with her more at www.melindavanfleet.com.